Feelings, Thoughts, Decisions

If you have been wondering why your life is going the way it is I would ask you to evaluate how you are feeling most of the time.  When you're alone?  What are your thoughts about things that aren't going the way you want them to go.  Pick an area of your life that seems to always be out of whack.  How do you feel about it, what do you think when you think about it and what kind of conversations do you have about it???  Is there financial lack in your life?  Are you attracting the same type of people in your life?  Are you working a job because it's the only thing you've ever done and you don't know how to get out?  These situations can change but you have to start with how you are feeling and thinking about them.  You decide to do and be because of your thoughts and feelings.

Your feelings are what drive your thoughts and your thoughts drive your decisions.  When you feel like you always attract the same type of person, you feel like you can't get out of the industry you are in or you feel like you will never have the money you need to enjoy life...you will think about it that way and your decisions will be in line with those thoughts and feelings.  Let's say you want a committed relationship but you have been in relationships that amount to nothing.  You think about all the relationships that have gone badly, you see that you are in a relationship that is crazy right now or you aren't in a relationship.  You get with friends and talk about how crazy men are or there aren't any good men out there or heaven forbid you say I don't have time or I don't care about having a relationship.  When deep in your heart you know you would love to have one.  You decide to live your life as if you are going to be single the rest of your life.  You make the decision to fill your days and nights with busy activities so you can be okay with the idea that you don't have time or you're not interested in a relationship.  Another example, how do you feel when you are in a financial bind.  You feel a knot in your stomach, you get tense and then you get a call or a letter from someone else that needs money from you.  When night falls you watch the clock wondering how you are going to pay the bills you're facing and how will you ever get out of this mess.  The phone rings first thing in the morning and you tense up because you see that it's one of the bill collectors wanting to know if you have the money.  Your thoughts are constantly on the fact that you don't have the money you need.  When you finally take or return a call, you're in a panic when you were talking to the bill collector and you over commit your finances.  Sometimes you ask God to supply but you work on what you will tell the collector when they call and you don't have the money.  I get it...You want out of this cycle but how do you get out?

The first thing you have to do is choose the issue you would like to start working on and see what you are feeling and thinking about it.  It may help to write things down if you have more than one area to work on, it will also help track your growth.  If you're feeling sad, anxious, fearful or tense about the situation do something that makes you feel good.  If singing makes you feel good, sing.  You can listen to some music, go to the park or for a drive.  Don't try to deal with the situation until you are in a good place.  When you can think about the situation or issue and not have those stressful feelings you are ready to deal with it.  If it takes a little while to get there, keep working on it.

Be mindful, you're working to deal with things differently and you will be challenged to fall back into what you are used to.  You will have to talk to yourself to get and keep your mind in check.  Having a bible verse that reminds you of God's promise regarding your issue is extremely helpful.  For instance, you have been doing well on feeling good and hopeful about your finances increasing.  Then you get a bill that says something is going to get disconnected tomorrow.  You may automatically think, I just can't catch a break or I will never get out of this hole.  You will need to catch that immediately and say, "My God shall supply all my needs according to His riches in glory".  You say it as much as you need to until you can settle your mind.  Don't panic and start calling everyone to see if you can borrow the money by tomorrow because you will end up owing someone else.  What happens if not one person you call is able to assist you?  The answer you need is inside of you and waiting on you to look for it.  But if you are in a tizzy, fearful or in a panic you will not hear the answer. 

"According as His divine power hath given unto us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him that hath called us to glory and virtue:" (2 Peter 1:3).  Either you believe what God has said or you don't.  This verse will anchor you and you can use it for at anytime for any situation.